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# Be the person you needed when you were younger
- URL: https://www.howardgray.net/be-the-person-you-needed-when-you-were-younger/
- Published: 2019-01-01T00:12:06.000Z
- Updated: 2025-05-24T18:27:32.000Z
- Author: Howard Gray
- Tags: Mindsets & Growth, Reflections & Stories, Howard's Riffs, Learning Innovation

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Brad Montague of Montague Workshop.

A couple of months after we moved to New York it was time for our first trip outside the city. For that Thanksgiving weekend we flew out to rural Kentucky.

After a few days of bourbon, turkey, southern hospitality and some insights into American culture beyond the bi-coastal bubble, it was time to head back to NYC.

As the evening drew in on a sleepy flight home and the sky rolled from bright blue to deep pink and then dark grey, I noticed the glow of a laptop a couple of rows in front of me.

On the screen was what looked like a social media post being prepared. You know the type – a beautiful stock photo overlaid with a motivational quote in a mid-weight font.

The image could have been anything – it didn’t stick with me at all.

The text is still completely clear in my mind.

> *Be the person you needed when you were younger.*

Not a bad mantra.

And unlike the social media feeds it ephemerally dissolved into, I’ve kept it pinned on my desktop ever since.

As a new year begins to unfold I’m still aiming to be the person I needed when I, and maybe a few others like me, were younger.

Who was the person you needed when you were younger? 

It’s a question worth asking.

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*Note: The quote originally comes from* [*Ayesha Siddiqui*](https://twitter.com/ayeshaasiddiqi/?ref=howardgray.net)*.*