“Don’t care what anyone else thinks about you.”
But looking through the lens of others can sharpen up our own view.
What do they see that I don’t?
How do they explain what I do if someone asks?
What would they omit that I’d like them to include, or add that I wouldn’t expect them to?
Of course, too much of this and we end up chasing shadows, or contorting ourselves into a dislocated version of who we may seek to be.
But using the different lenses to get clarity? Not a bad idea at all.
Here’s one thing to help with focus:
“How do they describe me to others?”
Go on, ask them. Get the mirror turned back around
The gap between what they say now, and what we want them to – that’s a space for us take a closer look at, and get some frames to match.